Bereavement Counselling

When we think about loss and bereavement, we automatically think about the passing of a loved one. Every change in someone's life can, however, bring feelings of loss. For example, the diagnosis of a chronic condition, redundancy or even an exciting and beautiful event such as becoming a parent, can trigger feelings of loss and grief.

The loss of a loved one can be devastating and can affect people in very different ways. Grief can be likened to "one minute you can be swimming along in the sea and the water is beautiful and calm and all of a sudden a huge wave appears from nowhere and engulfs you". This may or may not be how you experience grief - others go through the emotions in stages, so remember everyone is different and their experience of grief will be unique to them.

In general, there are four stages of grieving:

  • Acceptance of your loss and that the loss is real
  • Experiencing the pain of grief
  • Adjusting to life without the person who has died
  • Moving forward - putting less energy into grieving and channelling it into something new

Grief doesn't follow the stages smoothly. It can feel very chaotic and out of control, but eventually, these feelings become less intense.

Each bereavement is unique and there isn't any time limit on how long grief will last. Generally, the loss might not be constantly at the forefront of your mind after around 18 months, but this period varies depending on the individual. There is no "normal".

If you feel that you are not coping and are experiencing any of the following for a prolonged period of time, then it may be time to seek some support through loss and bereavement counselling:

  • You are finding it difficult to get out of bed
  • You are neglecting yourself or your family, i.e. not eating properly, not interacting with friends or family
  • You are feeling that you cannot go on without the person that you have lost
  • The emotions you are experiencing are so intense that it is impacting on the rest of your life

If any of the above rings true, please do contact me via my contact page for more information on my online loss and bereavement counselling service

How I Work

Whilst I always maintain a high standard of professionalism, I do endeavour to create a relaxed, welcoming atmosphere within my sessions. 

From my own experiences of counselling, I understand and appreciate that it is important that you or you and your partner feel at ease with me to be able to talk about the “difficult stuff”.

For those that find it difficult to talk openly (and I understand it is not easy to share your most personal and private details with a stranger), I adopt a range of therapeutic interventions and creative techniques to support you in expressing your thoughts and needs.

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What My Clients Say

During my many years working as a counsellor, in both private practice and with Relate, I’ve had the privilege of working with many individuals, couples and families whom I’ve been able to help and support to affect some very positive changes to their relationships. Read on for their experience of working with me.

Joanne, really helped Ben and I explore what was happening in our relationship, we often went away from our sessions reflecting on various aspects of our relationship that we had not really considered before.  

Joanne was really helpful in supporting us to view our relationship in a more postive way and supported us through the change process.

I am not sure that we would have survived without her.

We are very grateful for her support.

Ben and Isabell

I really do not think our relationship would have survived if we had not have sought counselling, Joanne enabled us to talk to each other something we had struggled with when it came to discussing intimacy.  We both felt very comfortable and safe in Joanne's presence and I think it was this that enabled us to be honest and open.  Thank you Joanne

Pat and Steve

Thank you for the help that you have given us, you helped open our eyes as to what was happening in our relationship and the impact the past was having on this.  We have learned to talk together openly about the past and this has helped us going forward.  We are now looking forward to a happier future.  Thank you Joanne.

Liz and Brian

Online Counselling Services

I offer a range of online counselling services and you can find out more about these below.

I'm often asked how many counselling sessions are needed. As a therapist I am guided by you, the client, as to how long therapy should last but, to gain the best therapeutic outcomes, I would suggest we work together for six sessions initially on a weekly basis. Throughout our work together we will regularly review your progress and at the end of the six weeks, it is your decision as to how we proceed.

If you decide you would like counselling, after you get in touch with me, I will send you a copy of my Online Counselling Agreement. The Agreement outlines details about online counselling and the platform I use. It outlines information about how to maintain your safety online, data protection and payment. There is also a Client Information Sheet which asks questions that need to be completed by you and, for couples counselling and family counselling, by the others having counselling with you. Your answers to these questions will enable me to assess and advise you if therapy online is the most appropriate method of counselling for you and your family member(s).

If you aren't sure which counselling service is right for you and your situation, or if you have any questions for me, please get in touch and we can discuss the available options.

Have you noticed that your relationships seem to follow the same patterns, or you are finding it difficult to initiate or maintain a relationship? If so, then individual relationship counselling can help you to understand why this is happening and help you break these unhealthy patterns of relating.
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Couples counselling can be helpful at any time in a couple's relationship but especially at times when trust is broken, or arguments are becoming more frequent. It may be that communication is poor or you feel the relationship is stuck in bad patterns or emotional or physical intimacy has diminished. If you relate to any of these, having someone to listen and empathise can support your journey to a more fulfilling and healthier relationship.
All families experience troubles and tough times. With so many intertwined emotions it is often difficult for you as a family to unravel these and find the root cause of the problem. Online family counselling, suitable for age 16+, provides a safe place for you and your family to explore the dynamics of your family and find new, healthier ways of relating to each other.